PS: I think that a part of the problem is that women reinforce this toxic masculinity, in that the nice guy finishes last. So men often get frustrated, and just turn into emotionless players/assholes because women seem to take to that more. Being an asshole/player and treating women like crap has become a part of what it means to be masculine - that dominance. A lot of women have bought into this idea, and they won't date a guy who treats them like they are a person, because they don't see a guy like that as being masculine enough. The lines are all kinds of tangled.