Does anyone have a fear of public speaking?

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  1. thelovelyone0

    thelovelyone0Banned

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    I have always had an issue with public speaking and I absolutely hate it. I wish that I didn't have this fear because I wold love to have become an attorney or motivational speaker. Instead, I am in college to become an elementary teacher. I know what you guys are thinking. I know that it is standing in front of a classroom and talking but for some reason I don't get nervous when I am helping a child learn. I absolutely love it! I was a preschool teacher for years and had to speak at their graduation and it wasn't a problem. My issue is with college; I hate giving a presentation in front of my peers. I hate the way they look at me and I hate the fact that the room is quite and only my voice is hard. All I'm thinking is that they are judging me. I don't know why but hopefully I will get over it since I am still in college. Do any of you have this issue?
     
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    I also don't like giving speech in front of many people. I think speaking in front of children is easier that in adult. The expectations are higher, their minds are different than the kids. When I was in collage if I can make ways not to stand in front of the class, I'll do it. I never overcome that attitude. Good thing my work does not require that kind of thing.
     
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    Well, i feel completely different, children are more sporadic people, so it's harder to know what to say because they are honest on if they like it or not. I was never good with public speaking, but when push comes to shove, i guess the only hard part is starting, then it's really easy.
     
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    I've always had a fear of public speaking, despite being put into many public speaking positions (speech as valedictorian of graduating class, speeches for a speech class, etc). Even after taking a public speaking class, I still have a great fear of speaking out in public. However, my public speaking professor taught us this: "I am a great public speaker and I love public speaking." It is something I try to repeat myself moments before I have to make some sort of major speech! Unfortunately, while I can do okay with public speaking, socializing is another matter altogether...
     
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    We were forced to give speeches in school and it terrified me every time lol. I can't be the focus in a room.. scary stuff for me. Well.. unless I've been drinking lol.
     
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    I was invited to be a guest speaker last July in celebration of the Nutrition month here in my country. I refused at first not because I wasn't sure if I'll be an effective speaker. But mostly, I was afraid of having to speak in front of so many people. When the day came, I took a deep breath and did my best. As expected, I had my "uh-oh" moments when I've stumbled over some words. But in the end of my speech, I did receive a warm applause.
     
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    Nope speaking is never something difficult when we really are aware of what you want to speak. :) So when you are well prepared then there might be any problem
     
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    I do. I did a stand-up comedy show once and had to get myself so drunk in order to make it through the ten minute set. I was invited to a conference last year to talk about how I make money online blogging and I had to decline because it meant talking to an audience. In fact I recently released my first video to help promote my blog and I was incredibly nervous.
     
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    Oh wow, I hear a lot of people have to get themselves drunk before giving a speech. Isn't it amazing how we are so brave when we're not sober...LoL. I was thinking of getting drunk as well for a presentation I had a few years back. I didn't get drunk but I received an F for it because I was too afraid to give the presentation.

    Omg, I hate when I am forced to give a presentation in school. I was thankful that I only had one presentation to give at my high school but in college, it was as if every class wanted me to speak in public so I resorted to online class. I can't keep receiving F's for my presentation grade because that would hurt my gpa and cause me to not be able to go to grad school.
     
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    Luckily for me, I never had that kind of issue, ever since I was a kid. I didn't mind speaking in front of the class or a large group of people, and not once did I feel nervous doing it.
     
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    I'm definitely not comfortable with public speaking. It makes me uncomfortable to have all the attention focused on me. The tip about imagining the audience naked has never worked for me.
     
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    I have never given a public speech. I am kind of the shy type so I don't think I would do well. I would probably have a bunch of butterflies in my stomach before beginning. I can imagine stuttering and freezing up lol. I have seen other people do the same. I also could tell they were nervous from the beginning, I hope none of my courses require this.
     
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    That was also also the problem with me though as I joined high school it ceased with time. This was due to the fact that has school head i head to give speech each day. No way i could escape it though i hated it but all in all it helped me greatly considering that I am now working as a CEO meaning i have to attend as many meetings as possible giving as many speeches as i can.
     
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    I used to have the fear of public speaking because English isn't my native language. I think it takes a lot of courage to speak what you have to speak because that is what your audience want to hear about your opinion on things. I practice speaking to people a lot, which I don't have the fear because I am able to say what I need to say, regardless of what people think about me.
     
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    I have always had a fear of public speaking. The fact that my voice shakes really badly doesn't help either. I just try to relax and tell myself it is not the end of the world. But I do agree that it is easier to talk in front of children than adults.
     
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    I have a huge fear of public speaking as well - you're not alone. I find it very intimidating when talking to a group of adults and teenagers because they can understand fully what you're saying and if you mess up or miss a word they can instantly pick up on it. When talking to a group of children, it's less likely that they would pick up on your mistakes. With this being said, I also find it more comfortable talking to groups of children.
     
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    I've never been really comfortable with public speaking even way back in college. I remember when we had this event and I was expected to speak in front of so many people. I was able to utter the words but I wasn't even aware that I was talking so fast. My classmate who was also there beside me had to nudge me to slow down.