I'm really not girly at all. I'd rather wear running shoes, jeans and a t-shirt everywhere than anything girly at all. When I was a child I even had a boy's hair cut! I'm just not girlie at all! But on the few occasions I will wear heels I definitely prefer something that feels more stable to be walking around in, so wider heels is definitely better for me! I prefer them to look substantial for sure. And not too high... But high enough! I suppose Im fussy?