I'm sure you've heard the saying "The grass is always greener on the other side." For instance: I am single, & therefore I see Marriage as 'some Promised Land fantasy (where I can be with my lover anytime she & I feel so-inclined, where we can constantly-forever feel the wonderful feelings we experience during our brief times together, etc.)' But I'm sure that (after they've been together long enough) married people have a slightly-different take on that---you have to be constantly-ready, because--once you're married--your spouse can POUNCE on you 'anytime' (whether you feel so-inclined or not). Further, you have to constantly update them on your planned actions (for the day, for the next few hours, etc.) and usually feel you need constant updates on their plans, whereas you could do 'whatever you wanted, without notifying ANYBODY' when you were single! I'm sure that Marriage 'makes up for' that lack of freedom somehow But I'm wondering, what makes one-of-`em better than the other?