Surprisingly, there aren't many clubs that specifically cater to people over 35. I'm in the library/bookstore all the time and no one wants to socialize...just read. Got over a bad relationship and illness in the past year...so what to do? Currently, I'm in school full time but everyone there is about 25 or younger. The few people I've seen over 40 look or move like they're 70, no disrespect. But here's the kicker on my end... My ex was such a jealous hole that he not only blocked my calls from anyone who wasn't family but he trashed my phone book. He would manipulate conversation so that I would talk to him all the time for the first few years under one roof. Oh yeah, and because I'm transitioning from serious illness, I had to move back home. Mom hangs around The House all the time, moans about everything, and only goes out to help my grammie (who was the complete opposite until recently). So even if I met somebody, we couldn't go to my place for a nightcap. Which leads me to a new factor. People are crazy. When I was younger and had my own studio, a few guys tried to move in with me after one date but overall, it was all in fun as long as I had protection. These days, people are killing and stalking one another after one-time stands, or when they failed to convert a one-nighter into something meaningful. Don't believe me, watch Snapped or one of those shows on the ID channel. I'd like a LTR but my ex scared me in many ways. He cheated, had a child when I wasn't pregnant, placed his hands on me, and told as many lies as he felt he could get away with. So...any suggestions for places to get back into the swing of things? Right now, I've got a fierce crush on someone at school who is half my age and the thought of dating someone younger is cracking me up. Yep, lots of emotions and history going on here.