Please Log In to view this link! it should be so-limited, but isn't too specific as to 'why not the other way `round.' She writes:That looks 'hypocritical' to me ... maybe I'm a 'male feminist,' but I think that--as women want to be given 'equal wages in employment'--they ought to want 'equal headship, equal take-charge' in the family. Personally, I don't 'make wages'; so I feel that I need a woman to ASK ME OUT. (I see 'asking out' as sort of 'inviting to a party for two that you are hosting'; and--as I can't pay--I can't fulfill the 'host'-role thereby implied.) And I don't feel the need to 'invest a significant amount of time & money to show my genuine masculinity & respect for the woman who has taken the time to ask me'; a guy only needs a shower & a splash of Old Spice to 'show genuine masculinity,' & I 'respect her' by saying "yes" & showing-up So in summary, I feel that 'the one who has the power to host the date' (power given by employers, inheritance, whatever) should be the one to ask.