When I asked my pastor what I should do about 'my problem with women,' he told me I'm thinking too much about it. The way 'it' (the whole marriage-courtship mishigas) worked for him (and--I suppose--for everyone else) is ... they just 'did life' and let the marriage happen! But (and here's where The Thinking-Bug bites me) I 'do life' different-than-usual, and that (apparently) 'casts me out' of the list of eligible bachelors. The main difference (from my standpoint) is 'income'---my income isn't even close to the 'standard'Please Log In to view this link!, but I "Please Log In to view this link!." (... A Shame that 'income' plays such a heavy role in one's self-esteem---I spent over an hour researching 'average cost-of-living'! true, the slowness of my computer played its part in that research-time; but most of the reason I have such a slow computer is that my 'income' doesn't have space to buy a new one!) The Thinking wonders "How can J get back on the 'eligible bachelors'-list?" Simple logic says 'Go out & get a job'; however, that logic doesn't follow-through for me ... i.e. 'Having a job' does not make me a 'magnet for females who want to be wives.' I guess (in order that I can 'be right' without thinking about it) I should hang-out with other eligible bachelors. Where do eligible bachelors hang-out FOR FREE? The Non-Thinking directs me to the nearest bar, where I can park in a bar-stool & 'check out the ladies (& be checked-out in return).' But The Thinking is bound to return, telling me what wonderful things I COULD be doing if I weren't 'sitting in a bar' (e.g. I could be writing hilarious skits for Saturday Night Live or -one of its clones, could be finding a cure for cancer, -AIDS or -stupidity, could be feeding the children of some third-world country, could "discuss the Holy Book with the learn-ed men seven hours everyday!" (If I Were a Rich Man, Fiddler on the Roof)). So I Think the world & I are best served if I 'hang-out' at home (doing this or cooling The Thinking by watching television). But how can I do that and still be 'eligible'?