Weddings: Cheap Or Expensive?

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  1. kate23

    kate23Active Member

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    Which would you do for your wedding, if you were getting married or have gotten married?

    Personally I would go for a cheap wedding. I don't mind other people spending a lot on their wedding but I just couldn't justify it to myself to spend many thousands of dollars on a wedding. I'd be thinking of all the things I'd much rather do with that money.

    It wouldn't be a conventional wedding either, it would be an adventure type vacation with family and friends where we'd do lots of fun activities and hiking and swimming and enjoying nature. That would be more fulfilling and memorable to me than a conventional wedding would be.
     
  2. Denis Hard

    Denis HardWell-Known Member

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    I'd go for a cheap wedding too. There's no point in spending so much money on a one day ceremony when you don't even know whether the person you are exchanging vows with publicly might divorce [you months later] once they realize that they didn't like you that much, after all.

    Of course most people say their weddings should be special [like exchanging vows on the beach as the sun fades?] and you wouldn't have to spend too much money if you invite only your best friends and few relatives to attend the wedding.
     
  3. ReadWriteLearnLove

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    My husband and I spent a lot of our hard-earned money on our wedding and in hindsight, I wish we would have gone much smaller and much cheaper. We had so many family members we had appease and we got caught up in trying to make everyone happy. If I were to do it over again I would go small and intimate for sure.
     
  4. GemmaRowlands

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    I would definitely go of a cheap wedding, and then spend money that I had on the honeymoon. A wedding is one day. The most important thing is that you have your family there; but you can do that with a cheap wedding, you don't have to spend all of your life savings or anything even near that amount. In my opinion, the vows are important, and it is also important to get the chance to socialise with family afterwards. This can be achieved by an event either in your home if it is big enough or at a small venue with relatively inexpensive food being provided for guests. A wedding is over so quickly that I just wouldn't want to spend all of my money when I would hardly be able to enjoy it.
     
  5. klassiter

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    I also went for a cheap wedding. We wanted most of our money to go into purchasing a home. Even though my wedding was cheap it was very nice. I also enjoyed having a small intimate wedding with my family and close friends. A wedding lasts for a day, but we will be living in our house for many years.
     
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    It's a future I don't see coming anytime soon, but when that time comes, I would opt for a reasonably-priced wedding. I don't mind having a cheap wedding, but how cheap is cheap exactly? What I mean by reasonably-priced is that I'd spend for my wedding commensurate to my and my future fiance's means. If we can afford a little bit of glamour, then I'm all right dishing out some money for it too. Weddings are once-in-a-lifetime occasions for conservative women like me so it's better to make the most out of the sacred occasion.
     
  7. yvannahgeorgianne

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    I'd love to have a cheap and simple wedding too. Just our families and friends who truly matter and have been with us during our relationship. There's more expenses to come before, during and after the wedding and spending a lot of money for something that will only happen for a day isn't economical and practical anymore.
     
  8. Theo

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    I would go for cheap as it's a party for everyone else really. I would rather spend the money on a honeymoon or a to buy a property. All that money for one day seems impractical to me, but for some people it's important and they want it.

    I think eloping is cheaper, easier and less hassle. You can always hold a party later with who you want to choose to have there.
     
  9. LeopardJones

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    I’m kind of doubting I’ll ever get married but if that should change, cheap all the way. Well then again, depending on the circumstances it might not be all that cheap, as I’d be interested in eloping rather far from here. But it would still probably cost far less than a traditional, conventional wedding if we kept everything aside from the potential travel expenses cheap.
     
  10. dyanmarie25

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    I think every woman deserves to have a beautiful wedding. It doesn't have to be grand, it just have to be simple but special. I just want it to be laid-back with all of my closest family and friends at the ceremony.I wouldn't say I want it to be a cheap wedding, but I would want it to be a wonderful one. :)
     
  11. mythman

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    A wedding is basically 'the couples families, showing (through investment) how much they believe in the validity of their match.' So yes Theo, the party IS for everyone else. But HER FATHER is ideally the one to pay for it (or your own parents): it's sort of like another 'graduation,' this time from the 'school' of singleness to the 'university-and/or-workforce' of couple-hood & possibly parenthood---most-importantly symbolizing that your parents are 'done' raising you.
    "Wed" comes from the same word as "Bet," because that's what the celebration is 'wagering': the 'bet' that the couple will stay together. Most weddings are the way I think funerals/memorial-services should be.
    No. I mean yes, it would be nice to have such an event in memory (where you're the anointed princess and your Prince Charming delivers his soul to you as your hearts are united and your minds are intertwined and your egos are mixed-together for the rest of your mortal lives); but such an event is a gift, and a 'gift' is made worthless if it's "what you deserve."